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I’ve Decided–today I will smile!

The above quote has a great deal of meaning to me because a dear friend sent it to me about a year ago, hoping to  cheer me up, make me smile again, and wipe away my tears.  I saved it and, in fact, printed it out and had it on my bulletin board for a while as a reminder to never let my smile get away from me because of the actions or words of someone else.  I’ve never forgotten it and recently I came across it again while going through some desk drawers.   It has been constantly on my mind since I rediscovered it and it has haunted me.   Why?  I’m sure sometimes that I know why.  Other times I am not so sure.

When my friend sent it to me, it did have the affect he had hoped for.  It did make me smile and obviously since I have never forgotten it, it has continued to do what it was meant to do.   When I find myself downhearted, unhappy, sure that I’m not good enough because things are not going exactly the way I want them to or relationships with others are not what I think they should be,  I think about this quote and it pushes me back into “real thinking”!

My life is not perfect nor is anyone else’s life perfect.  However I can choose to make my life a negative experience or a positive experience.  If I think in negative terms, my life will be exactly that–filled with negative experiences.  I know people who seem to begin each day with comments like “Today is just going to be another bad or miserable or awful (you fill in the blank) day.   At the end of the day those very people wonder why everything seemed to go wrong with their day.   I believe they call it a self-fulfilled prophesy, don’t they?

Now if I decide each day is a new beginning and that my day will be a good one, despite what transpires, at the end of the day I will be feeling a lot more positive and able to smile and tell myself that even if the day was not perfect, it was still good.  My day was not a failure because the only failure is in not doing anything.  Starting my day with a positive thought of its outcome keeps me from giving up and doing nothing.  It keeps me motivated to do my very best or certainly pushes me in the right direction.

Of course I have to be realistic about it.  There may be someone or more than one someone who will say or do something that disappoints me or makes me feel bad, unloved, unwanted.  Should I let that totally ruin my day because they think differently of me than I would want them to?  It’s very hard not to react in that way but think about it.  Who of us always likes everyone, can give everyone what they need or want in this life?  None of us!  So why should I feel like it is the end of my world when someone does not give me what I wish or does not feel the way I would want them to?  Is it the most awful thing that could happen to me?  Unfortunate perhaps, but definitely not awful; not even close to awful!  It’s all in how I choose to react to any given circumstance.  I have decided to do my best to react in a positive way and to keep my smile.

To my friend who helped me see the light and encouraged me to keep my smile, I thank you!  I appreciate you!

Be of Good Cheer – Smile!

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Before I begin, I must add a disclaimer of sorts.  God does have a sense of humor and friends are often on the same wave length because of it.  I wrote this late last night in my journal,  but didn’t get it typed into the blog.  I awoke this morning and read, as usual, the posts of my friends.  I read my friend Skye’s post first and I started to laugh for two reasons:  The things she wrote were funny some of them, and we had both written on the same subjects, using the same Bible verses from Proverbs as well!  I encourage you to read hers!   http://ohthethingsweshallsee.com/2013/10/04/why-did-the-chicken-only-cross-half-way/    Thank you for the giggles Lord!

I recently read a quote from an unknown source that said “A smile costs nothing but gives much. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.”

That started me thinking about smiles and cheerfulness and how they affect those with whom we come in contact.  I believe that a cheery, sincere smile can say more than a thousand words could ever express.  All of my life, I have been told that “laughter is the best medicine” and one of my favorite things to tell others about smiles vs frowns is that it takes many more muscles to frown than to smile, so why not be lazy and smile!  I am not sure if that is really true, of course, or just one of those “old wives tales”.

I decided to search in the Bible for what God says about smiles and cheerfulness.  Right away I was directed to Proverbs, of course.  In Proverbs 17:22 it says  “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”   Well that certainly proves the old adage of Laughter is the best medicine!

I was also led to Proverbs 15:13, 15:15   13A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken and “15 All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast.”   Two more good reasons to smile – who wants to have a broken spirit and who doesn’t enjoy a feast?

I decided to continue my search and found several (don’t worry, I won’t add all of them – lol).  I particularly liked what Christ says in John 16:33.  33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.   So he is telling us here that being cheerful is a very good thing; it will help us in those trying times.  Again is he saying laughter is the best medicine? I believe he is.

About a year ago, i had some conversations with others regarding what happens when we smile at another person, at a stranger.  Many of us were in agreement that most people would smile back.  I decided to test that hypothesis while traveling on vacation.  Best place to test it?  Airports!  I found that a few ignored me; a few frowned at me as if they were wondering what my ulterior motive might be to smile!  I didn’t think I needed a motive to smile at anyone.  i was very pleasantly surprised to find, however, that my hypothesis was correct.  At least 75% of the people flashed a smile right back and their eyes brightened!  Try it and see what happens!

So what does all of this have to do with anything? It shows us that smiling is a wonderful thing.  By smiling, we may have just made someone’s day a whole lot better!  Who knows? You may be the first person who smiled at them today or perhaps the only smile they will get all day.  I believe you have just may have raised their self-esteem a bit because you just gave them the message that they are worthwhile!  They are worth a smile from a stranger.  That can go a long way.  We will usually never know how far reaching that smile is but that is not important.  We will feel good just because we smiled.

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