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How to Recover Your Life When it’s Out of Control-Reblog

This is a reblog of a wonderful piece posted by Jason Ladd, a USMC fighter pilot and a Christian who I follow.  I encourage you to read it and to follow Jason as well on on his blog Fighter Faith!  He is a real blessing to many! Thank you Jason for allowing me to repost this on my blog.  Semper Fi and God bless you, brother.

http://www.jasonbladd.com/2014/06/29/how-to-recover-your-life-when-its-out-of-control/

How to Recover Your Life When It’s Out of Control

Fighter pilots are trained to fly their weapons systems at the edge of the operating envelope. A timid fighter pilot will yield an advantage to the adversary, and too much aggression can send them with their aircraft out of control.

Every Naval aviator learns how to recover their aircraft using the emergency procedure for out-of-control flight. This procedure must be committed to memory and is recited by a flight member during every flight brief which which involves basic fighter maneuvering.

This procedure is expected to be recited at the same pace it must be executed in flight—extremely fast! If recited too slow, or with any mistakes, the embarrassed aviator can expect responses ranging from snickers to disappointment to scorn.

And rightfully so. Naval aviation is not inherently dangerous, but it is extremely unforgiving. There is no place for mistakes based on a lack of preparation. During emergencies, pilots must take immediate action to get the aircraft under control and safely back to earth.

Immediate Action

Some things in life are so important that we should have our responses to them down cold.

But how prepared are you for all of life’s turbulence? How should you respond to adversity? Injustice? Tragedy? What is the proper procedure to execute when your life begins spinning out of control?

You may have confidence that you can lean on God’s word to get you through the tough times. But do you know exactly where to look? Do you have your emergency verses memorized?

You may have only a fleeting opportunity to make an important decision or minister to others. If you flub the message or can’t recall the procedure, your attempt to make a difference might crash and burn.

Let me recommend a few critical action verses which will help you keep control of your life when you feel like you’re holding on too tight.

Critical Action Verses

  • Emergency: Self doubt

    Critical Action Verse: Philippians 4:13
    “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”

  • Emergency: Adversity

    Critical Action Verse: Romans 8:28
    “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, a who have been called according to his purpose.”

    Emergency: Depression

    Critical Action Verse: Psalm 34:17-18
    “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
    and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

    Emergency: Stress

    Critical Action Verse: Philippians 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

    Emergency: Excess Pride

    Critical Action Verse: Proverbs 11:2 “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

    Emergency: Grief

    Critical Action Verse: Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart may fail,
    but God is the strength of my heart
    and my portion forever.”

    Emergency: Fear

    Critical Action Verse: psalm 56:3-4 “When I am afraid,
    I will trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid.”

    Emergency: Pain

    Critical Action Verse: Romans 8:18 “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”

    Emergency: Uncertainty

    Critical Action Verse: Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God.”

    These are but a few Critical Action Verses that are worth committing to memory. If you call upon them in times of trouble, you stand a better chance of getting your life under control.

    Which critical verses help you during times of crisis?

If I could change past decisions in my life…

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found on the internet, unsure who to credit it to

would I?   Would you?   A fellow blogger A Opinionated Man   http://aopinionatedman.com/2014/02/28/the-daily-opinion-the-past/ asked that very question this morning and rather than give a quick one sentence response, I told him his question was leading me to a new blog post which I will share with him sometime today or tonight.  Sorry it took me so long OM –My day got busy, but I did promise so here goes.

There are many small decisions, some of which I probably have even forgotten, that I don’t know if I would change or not. They may have had an effect on my life, sure, but how much would they really matter?  Am I sorry I quit high school to get married and have children? Yes about the quitting high school part, but I did go back to school and get my high school diploma several years later and started taking college classes part time. And eventually through several starts and stops due to work and raising kids, etc. I finally took a year and went back full time and did graduate with an associate degree at age 49. My point is, good or bad decision, it did work itself out to something positive and I would not trade the time with my kids for anything in the world.

The biggest decisions in my life are more difficult to decide upon.   The first was my decision to get married at a young age and start a family right away.  18 years old is way too young to be a wife and mother and to even really know what love really is.  If I had the knowledge then that I have now, I probably would have made a different decision, but since I did not, what is the sense of spending my time saying what if?   I soon knew that  my decision was not the best I could have made, but the positives from that bad decision culminated in my giving birth to three wonderful children and two of them have blessed me with a granddaughter.  I would never trade any of that in for anything so no, I would not change that decision,

30 years of marriage later, I made another huge decision in my life–to divorce. That was a tough decision to make, given my feelings about marriage being for life, but balancing that with my safety and sanity, I chose the latter.  Am I sorry about it?   No.   It was a smart move on my part.  I grew a lot when I was out on my own for the first time in my adult life, with nobody to rely on except for myself.

Since that time I have made many other decisions which resulted in many changes and much growth in my life and for the most part I would not change them.  A couple of smaller ones-yes, I would change, especially one not so small decision that cost me a very special friendship and that I still pray about.   The one big regret I had in my life from my decisions was that I was living almost halfway across the country (in Texas) when my eldest son took his own life.  For a long time I thought if only I had stayed in CT where he lived, maybe I could have stopped him.   I have come to terms with that in knowing that in reality I could not have done anything to stop him–nobody could.  Sadly, it was a decision he made and I will never know exactly why until I meet him again one day in heaven.

Fortunately now I have a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ and through that relationship I am not trying to lean on just me in my decisions, but I lean on the Lord.  I take my problems to Him in prayer and He leads and directs my paths -as long as I let him.   Being human, there are those times when i decide I can do better and get an answer more quickly-Not True!!    As it says in the Bible, in Proverbs 3:5, Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.   A verse I try very hard to remember!

So would I change any of my decisions?  No, I am guessing I would not.  Everything was decided for a reason and in everything, good or bad, a lesson was learned and I grew and matured.     How about you?

When life gives you scraps…..

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 just make quilts!  or another version of the quote is when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!  I’m sure we all could come up with a lot of similar positive quotes to encourage someone when life brings its trials and tribulations.   Because I like quilting, I have, of course, managed to collect a lot of scraps from previous quilts and small and large pieces of fabric that I’ve collected through fabric swaps years ago and fabric that has caught my eye that “I might use it someday” and so my mind always thinks of making quilts out of the scraps of life that come my way.

Now thinking about making them and actually making them, or finishing them is another whole story.  So, just as I have collected fabric scraps, I have collected many UFO’s (UnFinished Objects) in various stages of construction.   The picture above was one of those UFO’s until tonight when I finally finished it!  Yay!!!

As I finished sewing the binding on the quilt this evening, I got to thinking about how the unfinished projects in our lives can relate to the unfinished business in our lives –those trials and tribulations that happen to everyone.   How do we deal with them?  Or an even more obvious question perhaps, DO we deal with them or do we set them aside like the fabric scraps and the unfinished objects and tell ourselves we will deal with those things at a later date?

Some trials are not so bad and we can usually manage to resolve them easily; but what about the more difficult ones?  I don’t believe I am alone when I say that I am one of those people who will often set those problems aside to deal with later. How easy it is to tell myself that I just don’t have the desire, the time, the energy to deal with that now.  Not a good idea!  The longer we put off dealing with problems, the more they can grow into other problems in our lives.  The issues keep adding up and eventually we can find ourselves in a lot of distress–depression probably, or even physical ailments caused by stress.  I know this has been true throughout my life.   Just as I accumulated UFOs and just gave up on trying to complete the projects,  I allowed my trials and tribulations to accumulate also and “gave up”, so to speak,   for a while.

So what to do to change that habit, to deal with the things that trouble me?  Take them to God in prayer.  Stop ignoring Him or thinking He was ignoring me and didn’t care.  There are many verses in the Bible that remind us  that He does care and He wants to help us to deal with things.     One of them I found when I got into His word is:  Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

He wants us to ask Him, to come to Him with our problems.  He wants to help us pick up the pieces of our lives.  When I finally began to get closer to Him, spending more time in His word, in prayer, in closer fellowship with Him, changes began to happen.   I was better able to deal with those problems I had hidden away, some of which were not as much of an issue that I told myself they were.   I stopped giving up.   I look at the quilt I finished tonight and a couple of other small projects that I finished in the past couple of days as a message to myself that yes I CAN deal with the things I stored away and that I have dealt with many and begun to deal with others.   Praise the Lord, I have my life back!

One of my granddaughters suggested a while ago that it might be fun for me to share some of the quilts I have made on my blog, so you just may see some more pictures shared soon.  There is another little mini-quilt that I will share that I was reminded of as I wrote this post tonight.   “Picking up the Pieces”     I made 4 of these little quilts for me and my 3 sisters several years ago because it reminded me something my sisters tease me about from our childhood–how I would try to convince them to let me slack off on doing dishes if I had something better to do.

dishesquiltI’ll wash, you dry and little sister can pick up the pieces.

 

Life begins each morning…

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Life begins each morning….Each morning is the open door to a new world-new vistas, new aims, new tryings.  Leigh Mitchell Hodges

While writing in my journal this morning during my devotions I once again noticed a quote at the bottom of one of the pages I was writing on, the above quote beginning Life begins each morning..  Though I was writing about something very different, making notes for a couple of future blog posts, this quote caught my attention and I just felt I needed to share it. 

I don’t know about you, but quite often I awake in the morning thinking that it is “just another day”, nothing particularly spectacular or meaningful will happen in my day–just another humdrum day.   Somehow if I mistakenly start out with that thought, I can say it will probably be the case of how my day goes. 

The better way to start my day and something I did this morning after noticing this quote, is to decide that today I will take that to the Lord and pray for his guidance today and every day to open my eyes to the new things he will teach me today, to reach out for new things or to make goals for my day and do my very best to meet those goals.  I have to be careful there because I know I have the habit of setting too many goals of things I wish to accomplish that do not get completed because of other things that may come up or because I have under-estimated the time each goal will take to complete.  And if I am to be honest, quite often it is procrastination that gets in the way of completing my goals for the day. That is when I set myself up for failure!  Am I the only one who does that?

In Psalm 32:8 God says I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.    Today I will keep that close to me and lean on God to guide me through my day so that I may accomplish what He wishes to do today, let Him guide me in setting my priorities for the day.  One day at a time – Tomorrow I will do my best to follow the same plan of letting the Lord guide my day as another new day begins.  

This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it!  Psalm 118:24

 

I have a new song

A few days ago I was reading Psalm 40 and also Psalm 70 (Let all those that seek thee rejoice and be glad in thee: and let such as love thy salvation say continually, Let God be magnified.) which was referenced with Psalm 40.    As I read, I thought about the changes in my life in the past few months as I began depending more and leaning more on God in my life.   Over  the past couple of years I have traveled a very bumpy road of feeling very downhearted, worried about a lot of things, and felt lonely. etc.  I felt like my life was moving in slow motion; time flew by but not my life.   To use an old expression, I just felt like I was “going nowhere in a big hurry!”

I prayed  a few times asking the Lord for help, but then in my silly human condition, I would take back the request; figured I could do it on my own.  NOT!   It doesn’t work that way.

God never gives up on us though.  He is very patient and long-suffering waiting for us to come to him.  He heard my prayers.  He continually put people on my path – people who I was able to relate to and could share with just as they shared with me.  We were (and are) able to be an encouragement to each other.  We shared the good and bad things.  We laughed together and at times, cried together. We celebrated successes and held each other up in the down times.    I had no need to fear things, to feel so alone. God was and is with me with every step I take.

My walk with Him is growing every day as I spend much more time in His word, in prayer, and with Bible studies.  I have started to get more involved with things at my church and I am having fun doing it!

Through this time I have developed a new interest – Blogging!  Yes me, really!  I am still amazed at this!  I never felt I had anything worthwhile to say, was not good enough to write anything of interest to anyone; not wise enough to to really have anything of value to offer.    I’m not yet writing as often as I would like but surprising to me, some of the things I have written have drawn people to respond and/or follow my blog.  This gives me more courage to write and post more often, simple though my words are.  Quite honestly I never thought I would see this happening in my life.  God is full of surprises!!

I noticed at the bottom of the page in my journal where I originally wrote these thoughts a quote that is so fitting.  The author is unknown so I can’t credit it properly but it says “Within each of us, just waiting to blossom, is the wonderful promise of all we can be.”  This is so true!  It  is a wonderful promise indeed! There is so much I am learning and finding out about myself through this process!   I can’t wait to find out what yet awaits me!

Lord I thank you and praise you for pulling me up out of that dark hole and showing me the right path to take to real happiness, for sending me my many “earth angels” to help me on my journey and for allowing me to help them as well at times.   I am so blessed Lord!!