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When life gives you scraps…..

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 just make quilts!  or another version of the quote is when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!  I’m sure we all could come up with a lot of similar positive quotes to encourage someone when life brings its trials and tribulations.   Because I like quilting, I have, of course, managed to collect a lot of scraps from previous quilts and small and large pieces of fabric that I’ve collected through fabric swaps years ago and fabric that has caught my eye that “I might use it someday” and so my mind always thinks of making quilts out of the scraps of life that come my way.

Now thinking about making them and actually making them, or finishing them is another whole story.  So, just as I have collected fabric scraps, I have collected many UFO’s (UnFinished Objects) in various stages of construction.   The picture above was one of those UFO’s until tonight when I finally finished it!  Yay!!!

As I finished sewing the binding on the quilt this evening, I got to thinking about how the unfinished projects in our lives can relate to the unfinished business in our lives –those trials and tribulations that happen to everyone.   How do we deal with them?  Or an even more obvious question perhaps, DO we deal with them or do we set them aside like the fabric scraps and the unfinished objects and tell ourselves we will deal with those things at a later date?

Some trials are not so bad and we can usually manage to resolve them easily; but what about the more difficult ones?  I don’t believe I am alone when I say that I am one of those people who will often set those problems aside to deal with later. How easy it is to tell myself that I just don’t have the desire, the time, the energy to deal with that now.  Not a good idea!  The longer we put off dealing with problems, the more they can grow into other problems in our lives.  The issues keep adding up and eventually we can find ourselves in a lot of distress–depression probably, or even physical ailments caused by stress.  I know this has been true throughout my life.   Just as I accumulated UFOs and just gave up on trying to complete the projects,  I allowed my trials and tribulations to accumulate also and “gave up”, so to speak,   for a while.

So what to do to change that habit, to deal with the things that trouble me?  Take them to God in prayer.  Stop ignoring Him or thinking He was ignoring me and didn’t care.  There are many verses in the Bible that remind us  that He does care and He wants to help us to deal with things.     One of them I found when I got into His word is:  Philippians 4:6-7 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

He wants us to ask Him, to come to Him with our problems.  He wants to help us pick up the pieces of our lives.  When I finally began to get closer to Him, spending more time in His word, in prayer, in closer fellowship with Him, changes began to happen.   I was better able to deal with those problems I had hidden away, some of which were not as much of an issue that I told myself they were.   I stopped giving up.   I look at the quilt I finished tonight and a couple of other small projects that I finished in the past couple of days as a message to myself that yes I CAN deal with the things I stored away and that I have dealt with many and begun to deal with others.   Praise the Lord, I have my life back!

One of my granddaughters suggested a while ago that it might be fun for me to share some of the quilts I have made on my blog, so you just may see some more pictures shared soon.  There is another little mini-quilt that I will share that I was reminded of as I wrote this post tonight.   “Picking up the Pieces”     I made 4 of these little quilts for me and my 3 sisters several years ago because it reminded me something my sisters tease me about from our childhood–how I would try to convince them to let me slack off on doing dishes if I had something better to do.

dishesquiltI’ll wash, you dry and little sister can pick up the pieces.

 

Knee-time NOT Me-time!

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Today a few of us got together once again for Bible study, after a four week hiatus due to holidays and then bad weather and illnesses.  It was so great to be back together and we missed the ladies who were unable to attend for various reasons.  We have been discussing the book by Nancy Leigh DeMoss,  The Lies Women Believe. We previously had discussed emotions and depression and the circumstances in our lives that we blame for or may cause our periods of depression and continued that discussion today. 

I plan to write more about that at another time; however I did want to share a quote that one of the ladies in our group shared with us today.  I don’t know who to credit for this quote but felt it is such a wonderfully simple, yet important, piece of advice to remember when we may be having a bad day, feeling depressed, downhearted, sadness, etc.  

WHEN LIFE GETS TOO HARD TO STAND—-KNEEL!    Kneel in prayer to the Lord; take your troubles to Him.   He wants to hear us; wants to hear about those thorns in our flesh  and help us with them.  He takes joy in listening to us talk about the good things and the not so good things in our lives.   He loves all of His children and delights in us when we are sharing our lives with Him.   

Can it possibly ever be any simpler than that?   Is there any piece of advice that is easier to remember?      Instead of wishing for some ME-time when things are not going well for us, let’s just try out some KNEE-time!  

Wishing everyone a wonderful day and evening filled with all the blessings the Lord has for you!

1 Peter 5:6-7 (KJV) Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

I have a new song

A few days ago I was reading Psalm 40 and also Psalm 70 (Let all those that seek thee rejoice and be glad in thee: and let such as love thy salvation say continually, Let God be magnified.) which was referenced with Psalm 40.    As I read, I thought about the changes in my life in the past few months as I began depending more and leaning more on God in my life.   Over  the past couple of years I have traveled a very bumpy road of feeling very downhearted, worried about a lot of things, and felt lonely. etc.  I felt like my life was moving in slow motion; time flew by but not my life.   To use an old expression, I just felt like I was “going nowhere in a big hurry!”

I prayed  a few times asking the Lord for help, but then in my silly human condition, I would take back the request; figured I could do it on my own.  NOT!   It doesn’t work that way.

God never gives up on us though.  He is very patient and long-suffering waiting for us to come to him.  He heard my prayers.  He continually put people on my path – people who I was able to relate to and could share with just as they shared with me.  We were (and are) able to be an encouragement to each other.  We shared the good and bad things.  We laughed together and at times, cried together. We celebrated successes and held each other up in the down times.    I had no need to fear things, to feel so alone. God was and is with me with every step I take.

My walk with Him is growing every day as I spend much more time in His word, in prayer, and with Bible studies.  I have started to get more involved with things at my church and I am having fun doing it!

Through this time I have developed a new interest – Blogging!  Yes me, really!  I am still amazed at this!  I never felt I had anything worthwhile to say, was not good enough to write anything of interest to anyone; not wise enough to to really have anything of value to offer.    I’m not yet writing as often as I would like but surprising to me, some of the things I have written have drawn people to respond and/or follow my blog.  This gives me more courage to write and post more often, simple though my words are.  Quite honestly I never thought I would see this happening in my life.  God is full of surprises!!

I noticed at the bottom of the page in my journal where I originally wrote these thoughts a quote that is so fitting.  The author is unknown so I can’t credit it properly but it says “Within each of us, just waiting to blossom, is the wonderful promise of all we can be.”  This is so true!  It  is a wonderful promise indeed! There is so much I am learning and finding out about myself through this process!   I can’t wait to find out what yet awaits me!

Lord I thank you and praise you for pulling me up out of that dark hole and showing me the right path to take to real happiness, for sending me my many “earth angels” to help me on my journey and for allowing me to help them as well at times.   I am so blessed Lord!! 

Messages Everywhere

 

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Psalm 6: 2-4

Have mercy on me, Lord, for I am faint;  heal me, Lord, for my bones are in agony. My soul is in deep anguish.     How long, Lord, how long? Turn, Lord, and deliver me;   save me because of your unfailing love.

At the beginning of this Psalm, David is praying for the Lord to have mercy on him because he is suffering from a serious illness from which he believes he will not recover.  He talks about his inner self being disturbed and troubled and he prays for God to speak words of Peace to him.

As I read it, the thought crossed my mind that dealing with depression and loneliness feels exactly like that; troubled and disturbed, sad, always hoping for something to change; for someone to come along and  make those feelings all go away.  Of course, no person can “make it go away”‘ but only be an encouragement to you as you try to find peace. The Lord, however, CAN make it go away, but not without effort on our own part, of course.

As David did in the Psalms, we must go to God in prayer and seek his help.  If we are sincere in our requests to Him, He will answer those requests in His perfect timing.  He will direct us to His word , specifically to verses that speak directly to us the words he wants us to hear.   He will place what I call his “earth angels” on our path who encourage us.  I have personally experienced that in my life in several different ways.  He put many people on my path; new friends who have been and continue to be an encouragement to me in many different areas of my life.  Over and over, I will hear messages repeated, either in sermons, on the radio, or in other venues.  I read them in blogs on the internet, in books I am reading,  all of which are referring to different issues which are on my mind.

Some would say that it is just coincidence  but no, that is the Lord working on me.   As I draw ever closer to Him, I hear his words more and more frequently it seems.  In part, I believe, it is because I recognize them more quickly;  but also now that the Lord has my attention, He is making sure He keeps it.

Through this whole process I have seen changes in how I feel about myself and about my life, both past and present. I see my priorities beginning to change, my energy level returning.  One event that really showed me those changes happened a few weeks ago when the Lord led me to be able to write and give a eulogy at the funeral of my former husband; something that a few months ago I could not have done and would not have done.

It is an ongoing journey, a lifelong one, this walk with the Lord and I am so thankful I am able to take the journey and walk the path with Him.